Anonymous asked: Basically, I broke up with this guy about a week ago after being with him 3 months for something he did, then he was very sorry and hoped to get back with me. Since that we had a big campout and some of us went back to this other guys house and got very drunk and stuff, here I got with this guy who’s a good friend of his and ‘stuff happened’, then when my ex found out he was felt really hurt, and now I feel guilty and want to make him feel happier, and like clear the air. Any advice? Thank youx

First off, break ups happen. If one of you isn’t interested in the relationship anymore (meaning you in this situation), the whole thing will fall apart anyway.

Secondly, I think you should ask yourself if you could have possibly hooked up with his friend deliberately to get revenge or if it was an honest drunken mistake. I’m not trying to put the blame on you, but if you did do it on purpose, then you’re probably still harboring anger and should wait until you’re more level headed to take the next step.

Thirdly, if you’re sure it was a mistake and you’re really regretful, talk to him. He probably won’t want to talk because he’s going to be angry or upset, but at least you’ll be apologizing. It’s not fair for both of you to be upset. If he’s definitely willing to talk it over with you, I think you both should talk about everything. And by “everything,” I mean everything that has happened in your relationship. It’ll give you both some closure and it might even make him feel a little bit better about everything that was going on. And make sure this is all happening in person. Calling or texting won’t have the same affect.

Fourthly, if nothing can really be fixed and a friendship can’t be made, I think it’s time to permanently cut him out of your life. All you’ll both be doing is making the other miserable because nothing is right between the both of you. Also, please accept the fact that you might not be able to “cheer him up.” It’s normal that after a break up or fall out with someone, nothing will ever really be as happy and carefree as it used to be.

I hope that helped! If you need to talk to us anymore or need any more advice, just contact us! Thanks!

~Julianne

A Letter to the Brainless.

Dear “Gibson,”

Yes, I liked you. Yes, you are a musician. Yes, you’re smart and funny. And, yes, you know exactly what to say to make a girl fall for you. But you’re not all you’re cracked up to be.

I mean, let’s face it, all of us are far from perfect. We all have issues that we’re dealing with. But I thought I could look past your flaws and you could look past mine.

I mean, yes, you’re into some bad stuff and you don’t exactly have the most trust worthy friends. Oh, and girls are crawling all over you, which you definitely notice. But, like I said, I thought I could look past all of that. Maybe we could actually be together.

But I guess I had a bigger flaw than all of yours. That flaw? The fact that you wouldn’t be able to get in my pants.

I think you actually thought I was easy. Even though you knew me and talked to me and knew how my family was, you probably thought I’d change just for you? That’s a laugh.

So when you found out you might actually have to work a little bit to get anywhere (I should add, you were going to get nowhere), you decided to ignore me. You didn’t like the thought that you’d actually have to try.

Also, I figured all this out because of one of your old friend. Oh, and she told me that you were talking to a bunch of skinny freshman girls with big boobs. Dude, you’re a senior, at least have some standards. Don’t just trick freshman into doing what you want for your own benefit.

Back to the point: I’m not under your spell anymore. Yeah, maybe we can be friends, but you’re going to have to put effort in this time.

Also, I think I scare you a little bit. I mean, maybe I’m just thinking of myself to highly, but maybe you’re scared of having an actual, close relationship with someone. And that someone could’ve been me. Maybe I represent everything you want to have in a long-term relationship, but you don’t know how to make the leap. I don’t think you’re that close with your family, so it makes sense that you never really try to get to know someone. You’re afraid of being attached to something that might not last.

Basically, you’re afraid you could get hurt.

But you might learn someday. Until then, enjoy living life one girl after another. And I hope you at least regret misleading people for so long.

Especially me, though. We could’ve been something. You ruined that.

And now I’m saying “you are not the one.”

~Julianne

I Think I’m Done.

I’m serious this time.

I don’t think I can stay under his spell anymore. I deserve better than to sit around wondering if he’s thinking about me. Mainly because he probably isn’t. And I need to accept that and move on.

The worst part of this situation? I doubt he even realized how much I liked him.

And what’s almost just as bad is that I knew he didn’t want a relationship. But I let myself believe that he might want to change just for me.

It was dumb, and I knew that the moment I started thinking it.

But I kept chasing. But I’m done now.

He has been hanging out with… questionable people… and doing some shady things. Why would I want that in my life? Because he was hot. And funny. And a musician. Not a good combo for me with the rest of his personality.

But I ignored the bad parts of him because I wanted so badly to only see the good parts.

So now he doesn’t have my number. I could give it to him anytime I want to. But I don’t think I will. Maybe if he asks me in person or something, but I’m not going to look like the desperate little girl that I was.

Its funny how that was only a few months ago.

But now I’m in pursuit of a better guy. I don’t know who this guy is yet, but I will. Hopefully soon.

 There just aren’t a ton of guys where I live that I’d date.

They’re all usually either too nerdy or too tool-y. Most of them are tools though.

I’ve planned a “boy hunt” with another person helping to run this blog, Kayley, but we both chickened out.

And now that “boy hunt” will have to wait because I’m guessing a lot of the guys working places all quit because that was just a summer job. And now they’ll have more free time to get a girlfriend as fast as they can and take her out.  That “her” will not be me.”

Okay, maybe that example went a little too far in detail. But it proves something about me:

I’m a little worried I’ll be single forever.

Let’s try looking at this from a positive perspective: Maybe there will be someone new at my school. Maybe I’ll be a new friend. Maybe he’ll decide he really likes me. OR, maybe a guy decides that he wants to try theatre. Then we’ll meet and become friends. And then maybe I’ll finally get a boyfriend.

Okay, so that probably won’t happen. But a girl can dream, can’t she?

~Julianne