Complicated Matters.

I hate to generalize, but men kind of suck.

To give you an update on… my “relationship,” if that’s what you’d even call this, I like a boy.

That same boy likes me. Well, liked, but I’m getting ahead of myself here. He gathered some things a few weeks ago that I’d written on my regular blog and told me he liked me too. We sound like we’re back in grade school with this part of the story. But it was cute.

That night, a school night I should add, he rode his bike to my house and we walked and talked for a good hour about anything and everything. It even started to rain a little bit, but neither of us wanted to go inside.

That night he explained that he didn’t want a relationship. All he really wanted right now was a crush, someone to woo and court. I was fine being that girl. I liked being that girl.

Then we went out the next night and talked even more. He explained his situation with another girl, but I realized that she wasn’t really worth getting any kind of anxiety over.

The very next day, a Saturday, I was on a high from the night before. It was a fantastic feeling. I mean, a guy that I like that liked me back? That was unheard of.

And then I got a text from him. He said it would be best if we just stayed friends because things were “complicated” for him. He told me I should find someone else to like. That I deserved to be with someone who wants a relationship. I pretended like I was okay with that.

But I’m not okay with that. I liked what we were, even if it was only for a few days. I was okay with being “lead on” (his terms, not mine) for now.

Why does it always have to end like this? Why does it have to be so complicated?

I got a text from one of his friends this past weekend. This friend likes me. I know this, even though he hasn’t directly told me. He wanted to know if I like-liked my homecoming date (neither of these guys). Again, this sounds like we’re back in grade school.

I texted back and said “I don’t think so. I’m not really interested in anyone specifically right now.”

But it was a lie. It was lie with good intention, though.

The issue is, he’s a nice kid. I don’t want to hurt him. I wanted to get the point across as to not lead him on.

But what was I supposed to say? “No, I don’t like (homecoming date’s name). I like your friend. You know, the one you’re with right this second.” No. That’d be terrible.

And, I’m supposed to be “just friends.” But no matter how much he tells me I should like someone else, I can’t help but think about him. How am I supposed to forget that he loves keys and has a tattoo of one on his ankle? Or how much he loves Full House and horizontal stripes? Or how he has all of these views and feelings and talents?

How am I supposed to forget all of this when I still have feelings for him and still want to remember?

We still talk, we still hang out. I think he still likes me. But I have no idea.

This might sound like an elementary school crush, but it’s much more complicated.

~Julianne

him.

No matter how much you are over someone, you will always remember them. You’ll always feel nostalgic and falter. It doesn’t always mean that you aren’t over them, it’s natural. At least, for me it happens all the time. And it doesn’t really bother me, it’s just a little weird.

Today, one of his best friend’s messaged me over facebook and just started talking to me. He brought up that he hadn’t seen me since one of my old crush’s parties and it just reminds me of it all. I guess the best thing to do in this situation is to push the thoughts out of my head, and focus on other things for the day. That’s the advice I’d give someone else in the situation, so I will take my own advice and follow through.

More thoughts focused on homework, homecoming, and things that make me happy. Keeping it simple: No more thoughts about him.

-Kayley

I just wanted to write a short message for all you followers.

We are here for you all for whatever you need, whenever you need. Personally, I’m totally addicted to the Internet, which translates to I check this blog all the time. I check it almost every morning, everyday when I get home from school, and always before I go to bed.

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-Kayley

Anonymous asked: my ex confuses me i truly can not tell if he still likes me or even cares even thought he wears a bracelet that i made for him and gave him another bracelet that he never takes off and even when he gets bracelets from other girls he wears theirs for a while but eventually he stops wearing them and also when i went to hang out with a guy he asked questions like is he better than me, is he better looking, etc and he got upset over the fact but he said he wasnt jealous, so yea im just soo confused!

Well if it’s meant to happen for you two again, it will. I think you just have to figure out if you really want to be with your ex again. If you do, then you two should have good enough communication that you don’t have to play games. Just talk to him and tell him. Then once it’s out, he’ll tell you if he still cares or not. If you don’t want to be with him, don’t waste either of your time.

If you like another guy, you really need to step back and think about the situation. You need to figure out which guy you like, if you even like either or them. You don’t want to be toying with anyone’s feelings just because you aren’t sure. Just make sure you figure out who you like, then focus your time on them, and if you come out and tell a guy you like them it can make things a lot more simple.

Overall, don’t waste your own time or anyone else’s if you’re just confused. I really hope this helped. If you need any more help or someone to talk to, feel free to contact us again.
-Kayley

Anonymous asked: i wanted too know if its considered cheating if someone kisses you against your will because my ex-bf thinks i cheated on him with another ex. i know its my fault that it happened because i went to go see my ex to see if we could just remain friends but then he kissed me while i was there and i waited a couple of months before telling my bf and he said he forgave me but as time passed he just became mean and spiteful and i don’t know if there is a way to make him see that i didnt cheat on him :(

Everyone has a different opinion on what constitutes as cheating, so sometimes you need to define that with your partner so no one gets upset. But personally, I don’t think that anyone would really constitute someone else forcing a kiss on you as cheating. Now your boyfriend might think that you kissed your ex boyfriend back, but that wouldn’t be fair of him to assume. He’s probably just jealous and slightly insecure because it was one of your exes.

All you can really do in this situation is have an open conversation with your boyfriend. Tell him that you can plainly see that it is still bothering him, explain your side of the story, and try to get him to open up to talk about it. You should both express your feelings and get everything out.

Also, it probably wasn’t a good idea to keep it from him for as long as you did because it makes it seem more suspicious. So make sure you apologize for that when you talk to him too. Overall, just be totally honest and open up to him. Talk with him, and if you two can’t work it out then the relationship will never be able to fully heal.

Hope this helped, if you ever need anyone to talk to or get more advice feel free to contact us again.
-Kayley

Anonymous asked you:  Hi, so I’ve liked this guy for a while. The thing is, he flip flops between liking me, my best friend, and this girl that I can’t stand whatsoever. He openly flirts with me, acknowledged that he likes the girl I don’t like and asked out my best friend the day after he almost kissed me. I know he seems like a total tool from what I just described, but there’s a lot more good things than bad things about him. I want to stop liking him, but I’ve gotten too emotionally invested in it to just stop.

I think that you need to distance yourself from him. You say that he’s openly interested in more than just you and that isn’t a good thing. You’re setting yourself up for heartbreak and it doesn’t feel good. I’ve been there, I know. But I think that you just have to step away for a bit. Still stay friends, but don’t hang out/talk/text as much as you are now. That way you can still continue the relationship but not be crushed when he goes out with that girl you don’t like, or your best friend.

Or, if you feel like that isn’t an option, that you like him too much, then talk to him about it. Be open and tell him that you like him and you want to be with him, you just don’t want him messing around with other girls. Tell him that you’re willing to be in a relationship. He might just think that you don’t really want something serious with him which is why he’s keeping his options open.
Either way you need to do something, keeping it all bottled up isn’t helping the situation, so do something to help yourself. I hope this helps!
Sammy

Anonymous asked you: i apologize in advance for this being so long, and i have to send it in two messages. i have been talking to this guy for a few weeks. my friends know about him and are friends with him too, but my parents dont know because he has alot of baggage. he got his ex girlfriend pregnant (the baby was adopted so they broke up.) he dropped out, but graduated night school. some times he gets drunk, but usually he just smokes alot of weed. thats not really a problem, because my friends and i do too. but i just dont know what to do about him. i really like him, and i know he likes me, but i dont think he actually want a relationship. he likes seeing me and hanging out with me. but i feel like he wont want the commitment. and having sex with him isnt changing anything. in my mind, i know that there are better guys, but i just dont want to leave him.

You never have to apologize for a long message, we’re here to help you. :D

Now there were a few problems that I saw with your situation. The first was that he got his ex-girlfriend pregnant and broke up with her after the whole baby ordeal was over. This is a pretty big indicator that if you’re in trouble or there’s a serious situation he won’t stick with you. He doesn’t really care. Which brings me to the second problem, you think he won’t want the commitment of a relationship. This is a huge issue! If you feel he won’t want to be in an exclusive, official relationship, then he probably won’t. I know that you like him, and that it’s really hard to give up on that, but really it doesn’t seem like the relationship is going to go anywhere.

Another thing, you think that sex will help him change his mind. Some guys might change their minds when you have sex with them, true. But this guy didn’t, which means he probably won’t. If you really want to be with him, I say you tell him straight up, that you want a real relationship. You want him to commit to you and see how he feels. If he has hesitation, break it off. He’s not good for you, and you definitely deserve someone who appreciates who you are and what you want for a relationship.

I hope this helps.

Sammy

Anonymous asked: Basically, I broke up with this guy about a week ago after being with him 3 months for something he did, then he was very sorry and hoped to get back with me. Since that we had a big campout and some of us went back to this other guys house and got very drunk and stuff, here I got with this guy who’s a good friend of his and ‘stuff happened’, then when my ex found out he was felt really hurt, and now I feel guilty and want to make him feel happier, and like clear the air. Any advice? Thank youx

First off, break ups happen. If one of you isn’t interested in the relationship anymore (meaning you in this situation), the whole thing will fall apart anyway.

Secondly, I think you should ask yourself if you could have possibly hooked up with his friend deliberately to get revenge or if it was an honest drunken mistake. I’m not trying to put the blame on you, but if you did do it on purpose, then you’re probably still harboring anger and should wait until you’re more level headed to take the next step.

Thirdly, if you’re sure it was a mistake and you’re really regretful, talk to him. He probably won’t want to talk because he’s going to be angry or upset, but at least you’ll be apologizing. It’s not fair for both of you to be upset. If he’s definitely willing to talk it over with you, I think you both should talk about everything. And by “everything,” I mean everything that has happened in your relationship. It’ll give you both some closure and it might even make him feel a little bit better about everything that was going on. And make sure this is all happening in person. Calling or texting won’t have the same affect.

Fourthly, if nothing can really be fixed and a friendship can’t be made, I think it’s time to permanently cut him out of your life. All you’ll both be doing is making the other miserable because nothing is right between the both of you. Also, please accept the fact that you might not be able to “cheer him up.” It’s normal that after a break up or fall out with someone, nothing will ever really be as happy and carefree as it used to be.

I hope that helped! If you need to talk to us anymore or need any more advice, just contact us! Thanks!

~Julianne